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First experience with a Bully


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Just had to share this.  I am fairly new to smule with about a hundred recordings.  The other day I did a few recordings with a trending member. [username removed by admin].  Enjoyed singing with him and thought he sounded great.  As he is obviously experienced I sent him a note asking if he minded sharing some info on his mic settings as it sounded so clear.  He send me a note back saying something random about "if I don't share things with the community why should I help you" then blocked me ! Funny thing is, he commented on each of our recordings saying thanks for joining and I did the same.

Anyways... really put me off as I no longer had access to my recordings and quite frankly felt bullied for doing absolutely nothing.

As he has a Facebook page I sent him a quick note asking why he blocked me ... maybe he blocked the wrong person ?  He sends me a note back saying if I contact him again he will do worse than block me.

The whole thing was pretty upsetting and I considered leaving the smule community.  Note sure why I care but for some strange reason I do.  Messed up !!

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7 minutes ago, cspowell70 said:

As he has a Facebook page I sent him a quick note asking why he blocked me ...

Yeah, that was a mistake. If a person blocks you, it means they don’t want to interact with you again (for whatever reason). Trying to circumvent that by contacting them through other channels will only make matters worse. No wonder he got more direct. It’s better to accept the fact that you were blocked, move on, and to focus on the Smule interactions where there is a mutual interest to sing together and potentially chat. 

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Ya obviously a mistake and I agree.  Just wanted to give the opportunity to reverse an obvious mistake.  Your right.  Best to move on

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7 hours ago, cspowell70 said:

really put me off as I no longer had access to my recordings and quite frankly felt bullied for doing absolutely nothing.

Not sure if after your bad experience you still want to access your recordings with this person. But if you still want to, I think you can access his page (if you know his id)  through Smule website (http:/www.smule.com/<User ID> ) (without signing into it) and download your recordings using smule downloader  https://sing.salon/smule-downloader/

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2 hours ago, Aargo2017 said:

Not sure if after your bad experience you still want to access your recordings with this person. But if you still want to, I think you can access his page (if you know his id)  through Smule website (http:/www.smule.com/<User ID> ) (without signing into it) and download your recordings using smule downloader  https://sing.salon/smule-downloader/

Ty.  Appreciate the info

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Blocking has to be intentional. The option to block is found at the top corner of the page, unless there’s some other way that I don’t know about. I block people who blind love or love my recordings in mass quantities because it annoys me. Maybe this user blocks anyone who messages him?

In my opinion, messaging anyone for any reason is a bad idea. Just don’t do it. In or out of smule, just don’t do it. Yeah, this person’s initial reaction was rude and kind of weird. But this was not bullying, and it’s important not to take things like this personally and move on from it.

Since you are new, I am going to tell you this. There are people on Smule who comment positively on all joins. It’s hard to know whether someone really listened and really liked your recording. Not saying this is what happened to you. But it’s something to keep in mind if you want to keep singing on Smule. 

 

 

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On 7/8/2021 at 8:34 AM, cspowell70 said:

He send me a note back saying something random about "if I don't share things with the community why should I help you" then blocked me ! Funny thing is, he commented on each of our recordings saying thanks for joining and I did the same.

Right here! People such as this killjoy hurts the app. I cannot stand to read when someone is treated so poorly on this APP—an APP!  Can you imagine what he is like in real life? His poor family and friends (if he has any friends). Thankful he slithered away from you. Funny thing to me he was nice enough to share his Facebook information with you. Interesting.  Keep singing and don’t look back at that! Burns them up worse than anything. 

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On 7/8/2021 at 8:34 AM, cspowell70 said:

The other day I did a few recordings with a trending member. [username removed by admin].  Enjoyed singing with him and thought he sounded great.  As he is obviously experienced I sent him a note asking if he minded sharing some info on his mic settings as it sounded so clear.  He send me a note back saying something random about "if I don't share things with the community why should I help you" then blocked me ! Funny thing is, he commented on each of our recordings saying thanks for joining and I did the same.

I make it a point not to sing with anyone with a purple checkmark (I know, I'm a bigot 🙂).  I prefer to sing with people whose songs have under 50 likes.  These people generally are not in some kind of competition with me, they are just looking to have a good time.  YMMV.

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On 7/21/2021 at 3:57 PM, cl00bie said:

I make it a point not to sing with anyone with a purple checkmark (I know, I'm a bigot 🙂).  I prefer to sing with people whose songs have under 50 likes.  These people generally are not in some kind of competition with me, they are just looking to have a good time.  YMMV.

That’s good advice. My experience with popular singers on Smule is that they are self serving you-know-whats. Avoid them for sure if you want to have a good time on Smule. Unless you want to sing and not have anyone actually listen to it, the hot invites are good for that, I guess.

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